Teen’s exam fear is really a big issue, students experience a various set of tests or exams very frequently, which are also scheduled very closely. However, these types of situations lead to various types of anxiety or stress. Stress can be described as an unfavorable reaction shown by individuals when they are subjected to huge amounts of pressure or other forms of expectations imposed on them.
Stress can be evident in a different way from person to person. Sometimes, it can make students feel upset as well as threatened too. However, when somebody is suffering from stress for quite a long period of time, it can lead to physical even mental illness too. To overcome these kinds of stress and to get success in school, parents need to play an important part. Though teens love to get some independence, however parents support, and involvement is also required to get success academically.
Maintaining a balance between pressuring your teens too much and just supporting them is really a tough job, so the following discussion will help you to get the balance and give your full support to your teens.
Reasons behind feeling stressed during exams:
- Anxiety about the performance
- Hopelessness or negativity
- Unable to take criticism or skepticism
- Various relationship related problems or family problems
- High expectations from family or friends
- Money related problems etc.
Need to be aware of the following symptoms:
When somebody is suffering from stress for quite a long period of time then it gets bad, so you need to know the signs of this problematic issue.
- Tired all the time
- Sleeping disorder
- Feeling down all the time
- Panic attack or stress
- Bizarre eating habits
- Feeling sad almost to the point of crying all the time
Some other signs could be causing injury to themselves, headaches, eczema or various other severe skin conditions, eating problems and even feeling suicidal too.
Try to stay calm and support your teens through all their ups and downs. Always remember your emotions are something your teens will copy in future. So if you stay calm it will automatically influence your teens to stay calm during pressure situations in the future. They could have pushed you go beyond your limits, but don’t burst, it will make the situation even worse. Stress itself instigates poor behavior, so when parents start to react to them, it can lead to even more anxiety all around.
Communication is the Key
Teens usually prefer to share stuff with their friends, rather than their parents, however, you are the one who can open the channels of communication. Make them feel that you are there for them. Don’t always order them to do this or do that, it sounds more like a lecture to them. Just make them feel that you are approachable. On one hand, you need to have open conversations with your teens and on the other hand, you should be prepared to discuss with them their school or college related anxiety.
Peaceful and Specific Study Atmosphere
You need to make sure that at home your teen has a specific place for their lessons. That place needs to be quiet, and it must have a window. Always remember, a tidy home is the reflection of a tidy mind. Allow them to be aware of the fact, that you are available for them, nevertheless don’t voluntarily advise them, till they ask for it, otherwise, it can lead to a heated argument. Every teen is different, so if your kid is not a morning person, don’t push them. If they like to study during the night, let them do that. Make sure you have put their exam schedule at a place where everybody can see that and also can remind them on time. The real feeling of ticking off a finished exam will provide them with some real encouragement.
Getting Enough Sleep is a Must
Good sleep is always required to get your physical and mental health in a good condition. Teens tend to sleep late and wake up late, which sometimes lead to dizziness. Make sure you have imposed the no-tech rule strictly in their bedrooms. Keep an eye on your teens and ensure that they are not using their phones at least an hour before going to bed. Just like other people, they also need a good night’s sleep.
Healthy Drink and Balanced Diet
Keep eyes on your teens eating habits… don’t allow them to consume an excess amount of caffeine or cold drinks. It can lead to even more anxiety or stress or sleeplessness. Extra sugar can also instigate the stress levels and make them more restless. So, it is better to make homemade juices for your kids rather than giving them other soft drinks. Also, maintain a good healthy balanced diet to restore their energy in a right way.
Your Love is Energy Booster
Parent’s calm and supporting behavior accompanied with their patience and love for teens during exam time are like an energy booster drink. They might not like when you kiss them or hug them tight, however you need to make them realize that how much you love your teens. Try to be their fan. Make them realize how proud you are or praise them for their achievements. It will give them the strength to fight stress, teen stress during exams can be handled easily when you show love to them.
Help them in Making Study Time Table
After they get their homework from school, sit with them and put some plan to inline the studies subject wise with a proper timetable. Make sure you have included the breaks too. It will help them to concentrate. Nevertheless, be prepared for failure too. Sometimes you might find them with some unfinished task. Just try to be patient with them, try to realize that all days are not the same.
Emphasize on Exercise
Always inspire them to do various exercises. It will help them to manufacture happy hormones. Mostly during various school exams student prefer to stop various other activities. Try to encourage them to go for swimming or for some gym time at least. It helps them to cope with the anxiety too. Yoga is another way of getting yourself relaxed, especially during the exams. Try to set classes with your teens together. Even you can practice it at home by playing some soothing music along with it. When nothing works just a simple walk or just ten minutes of kicking a football or even hitting a tennis ball can do wonders.